The Myth of Sex Addiction, Common Mistakes, and More
The study of sexuality, sexual orientation, gender, and sexual dysfunction have been focuses in therapy for decades. But how much does your average therapist really know about navigating a session with a gay or lesbian client dealing with a sexual issue?
According to sex therapist Joe Kort, many therapists today are following outdated sex therapy models, including the concept of sex addiction as a diagnosis and a problem. What's more, he adds that very few therapists who call themselves addiction specialists get adequate training in sex therapy.
In the following interview with Networker assistant editor Chris Lyford, Kort explains why we need to break free from old sexual health models—and how to do so, why some straight men have sex with other men, and the difference between sexual orientation and gender identity.
Joe Kort, PhD, is a certified Imago therapist, licensed masters social worker, and author of LGBT Clients in Therapy: Clinical Issues and Treatment Strategies, and Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? A Guide for Women Concerned about Their Men.
As Kort explains, the science around sex addiction is "riddled with morality and religiosity and people's beliefs about what sex is or should be," and therapists should tread carefully when examining older literature on treating of sexual issues.
Therapists working with LGBTQ clients, he adds, should be neither a blank slate, nor consider themselves an expert in working with LGBTQ clients unless they've worked extensively with this population, have proper training, and remain nonjudgmental and open to new ideas and perspectives.
"Therapists who work with this population have to follow their clients' leads," Kort writes in his Networker article. "The work is as much about education as psychotherapy."
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Joe Kort, PhD, LMSW, is a board-certified sexologist and the founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health, and runs a private practice in Royal Oak, Michigan. Dr. Kort, a therapist, coach and author, has been practicing psychotherapy for more than 38 years and has spoken internationally on the subject of gay counseling. He specializes in sex therapy, LGBTQ affirmative psychotherapy, sexually compulsive behaviors, and IMAGO relationship therapy designed for couples to enhance their relationship through improved communication. Dr. Kort is a blogger for the Huffington Post and Psychology Today on issues of sexuality. He has been a guest on the various television programs on mixed orientation marriages and “sexual addiction”. Dr. Kort is the author of several books, including, LGBTQ Clients in Therapy, 10 Smart Things Gay Men Can Do to Find Real Love, and Is My Husband Gay, Straight or Bisexual.
Speaker Disclosures:
Financial: Dr. Joe Kort maintains a private practice and has an employment relationship with Modern Sex Therapy Institutes. He receives royalties as a published author, and he receives a speaking honorarium and book and recording royalties from PESI, Inc. He has no relevant financial relationships with ineligible organizations.
Non-financial: Dr. Joe Kort is a member of the National Association of Social Workers, the Institute for Imago Relationship Therapy, and the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists.
