Introduction to the Oaklander Model of Gestalt Paly Therapy with Children, Adolescents and Families
Introduction to the Oaklander Model
- Core principles and how children adapt to get their needs met
- Developmental factors
- How children take in messages and form faulty belief systems
- Reframing to help children build self-compassion and acceptance
- Research, risks and limitations
Simple Ways to Help Kids Connect to Their Senses, Their Bodies, and Their Selves
- Assess what brings children to therapy
- Build awareness of the 5 senses (taste, hearing, sight, smell, touch)
- Connect and notice through the body, breath, and voice
- Elements of strengthening the self: mastery, making choices, and power/control
A Six Step Projective Process to Help Kids Explore, Express & Reflect
- Invite (Warm it up): Bid for play and assess the child’s readiness
- Prompt (Imagine it): Begin with an imaginative, sensory-based prompt
- Resource (Make it): Form the scene through expressive media
- Join (Be it): Ask the child to speak and move as the projection (“I am the …”)
- Process (Does it fit?): Ask for the child’s reflection and how the projection applies to their real life
- Follow (What’s next?): Determine takeaways and real-world applications
Projective Techniques in Action: Drawing, Clay and Creative Activities to Explore and Process Emotions
- “Safe Place” drawing exercise to explore safe places, unsafe places, and “safe enough”
- “Something from Nothing” clay exercise for sensory grounding
- “Childhood” Drawing Exercise: to explore and process emotions from past experiences
Day 2
The Therapeutic Process
The Therapeutic Process and the I/Thou Relationship
- From establishing the relationship to termination and family work
- Define the I/Thou Relationship: “I’m a person and you’re a person” rather than “expert and client”
- Help the child identify, exaggerate, and reframe negative introjects for integration
- Confront difficult behaviors by finding what is underneath and experimenting with projective play exercises
Tools to Help Kids Talk About Feelings, Sadness, Grief, and More:
Projective Cards, Body Mapping, and Sensory Visualization
- Understand and talk about feelings and body states
- Projective Cards: Use cards to represent and explain complex emotions
- Body Mapping: Draw where different emotions live and what they look like
- Experience grief and sadness through sensory visualization
Exercises for Anger and Aggressive Energy:
Scribbling, Squashing Paper, and Exaggerated Play to Release Big Emotions
- Differentiating between anger and aggressive energy
- Aggressive energy: Safe container and the spirit of exaggerated play
- The Nemesis Script: A structured dialogue for working with and expressing strong emotion
- Create an “Anger Actions” List: Brainstorm safe expressions like punching a pillow, tearing magazines, or squashing paper
- Scribble Drawings: Scribble with full-body motion, find an image within the scribble, and tell its story
Gestalt Play Therapy and the Sand Tray
- Making sense, metaphorical, acting out, dialoguing, and owning
- Effective prompts
- Use miniatures (animals, fantasy, boundaries, etc.)
- Adapting sand tray therapy for telehealth and apps


